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Q: I’m turning 18 soon and I don’t know how to celebrate it. Got any ideas? What should I treat myself with?
A: If you’re a citizen, get yourself registered to vote! And then invite your closest friends over to celebrate your coming-of-age with a fat tub of ice cream, pizza, and a rated-R movie. Or not. The best thing about turning 18 is that it’s literally all up to you now, because, wooo, you’re a bonafide adult. Go to a concert, visit the beach, or (if you really have nothing better to do) finish your college apps, whatever! Revel in the feeling of being newly old.
— Sarah Kim
Q: how do you lose feelings for someone you have no chance with?
A: Phoebe Buffay Regina Phalange,
My first piece of advice (and probably the one I encourage you to use the most) is to just tell that person. Now if you’re anything like me, and you have layers and layers of anxiety, that is going to sound daunting. But trust me, telling them is going to take off so much pressure. It’ll give you the closure you’ll need to get over them and it really will take a load off.
If that doesn’t sound even a tad bit appealing, I’d say find distractions. Take up a new hobby! Run! Bake! Knit (?)! Read! The possibilities are endless! It’s a wee bit cliché I’m aware, but it’ll help you not think about them constantly (Note: This works best while listening to Taylor swift. Everything is better while listening to Taylor Swift).
If that also sounds unappealing, wallow. Wallow in self pity and eat unhealthy foods whilst watching Rom-Coms (You’ve Got Mail or 500 Days of Summer are possibly the best Rom-Coms to have ever come out). It definitely will put you in your feels but it helps get through your feelings!
ALL THE BEST!
Q: I like this boy in my class but I’ve never talked to him and I’m way too scared and shy to go up to him and actually start a conversation. How do I get him to notice me?
A: I think that it’s important to know that you can’t always rely on the other person to ask you first. Sometimes you just have to go for it even if you’re scared! If he sits by you in class, try to start by talking to him about classwork, then transition into other things. If you just start by talking to him casually, it can transition into friendship, and eventually you might be able to tell him your feelings! Maybe you can do one of those “day 1 till the guy in my ___ class falls for me” videos 😉 If you still want to find a way for him to notice you, come to school wearing one of those inflatable dinosaur costumes.
Tessa (guest writer) and Amrita
Q: Will you go to prom with me?
A: Will you? — Sarah Kim
Q: Hi Daniela, How do you take good quality notes?
A: Hey Tater Tots!
When it comes to taking good quality notes, it really depends on the subject. For most subjects, I use different colored pens and highlighters. I try to interact with the notes and do practice questions in order to learn better. Sometimes drawing (even with bad art skills) is very useful too! I wish you the best of luck. 🙂
Q: How would one get people to show up to their club meetings
A: Honestly, food can convince people to come anywhere. Plus, if it’s a club meeting, people who bring their friends with the promise of food at the meeting will allow you to possibly gain more club members, because it’s very likely that a lot of people don’t know or just didn’t pay a lot of attention to your table at club day, but once they attend a meeting they could become interested. Also, I’d suggest that the food is promised for the end of the meeting and not the beginning, or you might have people coming in and out for food, but not staying for the meeting, which would do the oppposite of what you want.
Q: How do I get best friends? I have some close friends, but I feel like most of them prefer to spend time with their other friends over me.
A: I feel like you can’t go into friendships assuming they will become best friends. When it comes to best friends, it’s usually a slow burn. I met my friends in eighth grade and it took me until freshman year to realise that these people were my best friends. I think you just need to spend more time with one single group of people and avoid looking into it as if it will be a best friendship because then you may be let down if it isn’t.
Q: What do I do if my best friend won’t stop telling me to watch a TV show, but I have no interest in that specific genre so I don’t want to watch it? (I also don’t have the time right now to watch it.)
A: Hi Confused!
I’ve been in the same situation in the past. My best advice would be to be nice but also say “I will, I just can’t right now.” When it gets to a point, you can just be honest and say “I’m interested in other shows, but thanks! I’ll definitely look into it!” Also, don’t forget that no matter what, you are still your own person, no matter how close you and your best friend are.